HOW TO GO OUT FROM THE FEAR TO MAKE A MISTAKE? IN 3 STEPS
According to a survey conducted by YouGov UK, on the podium among the most common fears, we face the fear of speaking in public. “Glossophobia” is overcome only by: fear of heights (acrophobia) and fear of snakes (ofidophobia); And it is about to overcome ancient fears such as fear of darkness, open spaces, closed spaces, spiders, mice, heights, etc. It seems that the fear of making a “shaggy” is far more than fearful of their own survival.
When we learn to dance we are happy, serene and chubby. Then when we are offered to make our debut in front of others, we do it with healthy unconsciousness: a little tension but so much curiosity. In the end we are excited because it was our first spotlight, and we survived, with so much applause from the public, wow!
Here, this is the easy part, then it happens to many that getting good, they are getting more and more demanding with themselves, sometimes even developing an atavistic fear of being wrong on the track. The good news, and that there is a remedy to heal from this fear. And here we divide it into three phases:
1. Knowledge
Consider this: if the “professionals” have earned this qualification, it is precisely because they have made a lot more mistakes than you. If you are a precise and perfectionist person, and maybe the numbers are you genius, think this: if to move on track so nonchalant, being Enlarged to smile, enjoying the music, and being able to solve any situation, you need to do before 100 Wrong … Well, that means you’ll first do them all, before that will be the case.
Making mistakes is inevitable in the growth process, in fact, the more you have made mistakes in the past, the less will surprise you in the present.
2. Practice
Do you have the curve of learning? If not, then read the LEARNING CURVE APPLIED TO THE BALL. There is nothing that can give you experience on the track as, by the way, track experience. Accustomed to risk, first with small things, developing the habit of courage. Now, I’m not talking about pulling out a sword and fight against the gladiators, but to risk inviting a woman to dance, trying a new dance, smiling as balls, use your arms not only to shape the clothes you wear … I mean, You have to dance: training is essential, doing practical sessions, essential.
When you are preparing a show to show to an audience, first see other people: maybe another teacher, or other students, or a friend. You will become accustomed to risk, and you will taste.
3. Learn to trust
When you are wrong enough times, you will feel strong and secure: you will be used to solving these situations. I teach at the AM of Florence, and 11 years ago – in a rumba show during a showcase – one of the episodes that best represents my relationship with the mistakes on the track happened. After 50 seconds of performance, the student whispers to me: “You just missed half a show!” Here, with a smile I drove the missing part of the show and ended up with a applauditissimo casche. My student laughed when we left the track. It was beautiful, it was exciting, and it was a wonderful anecdote. The confidence we placed on each other solved more than half of the situation.
I learned to be curious. Now when I find myself facing difficult or unexpected situations, I say with a smile: “I’m curious to see how I will solve this,” and then I am surprised. Ask yourself too, be curious, find out what you are capable of.
And now go, it starts to go wrong. Good fun!
Giuliano Scarpati